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The One & Only Brett
12/22/2001
It's really nice to see everyone on the same page in sending our condolences to Doug during his hard times. Times like this makes me proud to be a Cable Dawg. I've known Doug for about 10yrs now, and was very sad to hear of his loss. But Im proud to be with the rest of you as lineman. Hope everyone has a safe and Happy Holiday.
j waite
12/22/2001
Can someone tell me a price that a three man directional boring crew should be earning? We each have 2 years exp and the company that we work for owns the machine. We get about 900 feet per week on avg.
James Slater
12/23/2001
It depends on what product you are putting in the ground iwaite. If you tell us what you are pulling back (the size of pipe,cable and how many),I'm sure we could give you an idea of what you should be making.James.
swampkid
12/23/2001
Hey Guys and Gals,
I need some advice. I have a problem with my ex wife she keepstrying to ruin my reputation in the industry that I am working in. What do I do? I am out of options. She keeps saying and making up false stories tings that supposivley did to her and am doing to her. I dont like this. I am a father of a 3 yr old girl and she is my world. I do the best I can.
Any help is appreciated.
Petergunn
12/23/2001
Swampkid, you are in a no win situation. I am sorry to have nothing more to offer you than this...Continue to do your job the best that you can, don't get caught up in this struggle for the bragging rights, don't allow yourself to seek revenge , or one upmanship against your Lady Swampkid, I have kept up as much as a person can sitting along the sidelines here and I don't know what has brought about this dissolution of a relationship that maybe never had any more to it than a union which created a beautiful little baby daughter. Maybe that is all it ever had... I don't know but even IF, and I don't think that was all, but IF that was all, It was and is and always will be something greater than you , me, Your Lady friend, all the cable in the world. Your baby daughter has a mother...understand? Nothing that woman can say, do, or slander in this world will ever give anyone the right to hurt that baby's Momma. Don't do it. Forgive her, Be absolutely sincere in your efforts to be forgiven, whether it is your fault or not...it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter anymore. What does matter are the repercussions experienced by your Baby daughter. These will be brought on by anything that upsets her Momma, right or wrong, it is everything to your Baby daughter that her Momma continued to be treated with the utmost sincere respect. I mean respect her when she doesn't deserve it. Respect to someone who deserves respect is nothing, and anybody can do that...but you respect that little Baby's Momma when she deserves it least and then we will see the measurement of a man's love for his Baby daughter. Don't hide from or be mean to her Mamma, else you just as well do it to your Baby and you need not expect any better relationships for your Baby than that that you provided for her Momma. With no one to blame but yourself. This can all be much, much worse for you, and you may not believe it until twenty years from now when you witness another man putting Baby daughter through anything you, the Daddy, would put the Baby's Momma through. Please take time to reflect. Consider all that attracted you to the Baby's Momma in the beginning. You know it is usually these same features that we resent later when it is us that falls under the gun of a Momma Bear trying desperately to save all that is life to her? I am sure if you two would put your heads together there is a way for you both to satisfy your own personal yearnings. Swampkid and success in cable, Lady Swampkid and success in her home and family. There is a compromise here. And it is not labeled with Swampkid's name on it. It is not labeled with Lady Swampkid's name on it...you got it...Baby Swampkid's name is on it but Daddy and Momma need to bring it home to her. You can offer compromise now or take the chance, because that is what it will be taking a chance to see If Baby Swampkid doesn't offer compromise all through her life trying to please someone else. Swampkid... I am in no sense of the word soft, or a pussy. I got over twenty years in this business, over eight years inside the WALLS(maximum security) But I have to be honest with you, here in public and I don't like it more than you. Reading some of you and your Lady's notes back and forth brings me to tears. I am not exaggerating. No sir. I don't like to talk about it here. I will probably regret this soon enough. But I have a personal vow to my Spirit to never deny TRUTH, LOVINGKINDNESS, or FORGIVNESS. Today, When I read your note in the cement, you called me to stand for all of these and that is why I have had the need to respond. In My response I hope I can save myself from finding a note from my Lady as you have yours. Take your time, Swampkid. This is much, much bigger than you, me, all the cable, all the women, all the money in the world. It is Baby Swampkid's world and only by serving yourself can you determine baby's potential. Serve yourself and Compromise the Baby. I can't tell you what to do. I know that. But I don't think there are many more qualified to speak frankly to you than I am. I am fighting for the lives of my wife and children today. With everything I am worth I am fighting to preserve the home we had. For me to see anyone able to save something that will never be promised to them again, and not tell them to take their time, becareful, remember life is NOT about us. It is Much, Much Bigger than us...and it is in the Baby Swampkid's future, and she will feel about herself exactly what she understands her worth to be from you and Momma Swampkid.Good luck Bro' You can e-mail me or call if you have the need. You can click on my name anywhere throughout the CABL BAR and get my name and number. Take your time, becareful...
Doug
12/23/2001
Having an Ex trash your good name has been around as long as Adam and Eve, and when this happens we all basicly know the rules or have gone threw this at one time or another, When I was out in Ca this lady I was with got pissed at me for god knows what then got into the juice it was right around Christmas, now some how she got hold of my contact phone book, I had numbers, serious numbers in that book, contacts I had gathered threw the years, CEO home phone numbers, inside numbers, you know the book anyway she sat down and spent a good three hours going from page to page contacting everyone of my contacts and gave them the speach but you know what,,, there was very little repercussions from this, I of course got hold of a lot of these contacts and before fore I could apoligize I was given the wrath of a woman speech, I'm not saying I didn't lose a few contacts but I guess what I'm trying to say is that action speaks louder than words, if your out there working your ass off every day, everyone knows that and the disgruntled opinions of a woman or a man out to destroy your reputation doesn't really carry much weight, in fact it's usually counter productive and more times than not back fires on the said person making all the noise, my personal advise is to care on, the thorn in your side will self destruct in time, don't lower yourself to that level, you'll find no good in it, in time you will persevere,
SwampKid
12/23/2001
Ok, I have to add a few notes here. Petergunn thank you very much for your response I found it to be so true you almost brought tears to my eyes! Some of the things you said were things I have never once even thought about and I was the one who was hurt in all this mess. No, I was not as hurt as Baby Swampkid but still literally crushed. It has taken months and plenty of Paxil to be able to write this with a clear head. Two weeks before Swampkid and I were to celebrate our 4th wedding anniversary he went online and found a new woman. The very next day he decided that he no longer wanted to have a family. I begged him (like literally on my knees) not to throw our relationship away, but once Swampkid makes up his mind there is no going back. Ok, so I did my part I tried the best I could to save my marriage, but I cannot move a brick wall and I cannot communicate with a brick wall. Swampkid told me to get my shit and go so I did. When I left I hugged him as hard as I could and told him "I love you and I'm in love with you and I never want you to forget that." Then I watched him, the love of my life and the father of my child, walk out the door without a tear or a thought of regret in his mind. Ok, so now it is obvious that he does not love me and never did love me so now it is time to move on and that is what I did. Swampkid moved out of the apartment we were sharing and refused for two weeks to give me his address. Finally one day he agreed and no big surprise he gave me and invalid address then moved again. Lets back up a bit...when I left Swampkid I had $90 and a $50 check that he gave me. Now we are in the present day. I am totally clueless as to where Swampkid is, who he is working for or if he is even working. For the first month and a half Swampkid told me next week whenever I would ask for child support money. Then the $50 check came back NSF which Swampkid says he closed that account and would give me the money next time he came to see Baby Swampkid. I have not seen Swampkid in close to three months and I have not seen any money in the same amount of time. The only reason I even frequent this site is because I NEED child support money. I come to this site trying to figure out what city he is in because I have a 3 yr old daughter to raise and it takes money to clothe and feed her. Swampkid did stop by one night last week and dropped off clothes for her. Now of course the clothes he bought were from the Disney Store and Kids Foot Locker which translates into expensive clothes. I do not even have money to buy my 3 yr old baby girl Christmas presents. It is sad that she is only 3 and I have already had to skip a Christmas. Of course Mawmaw and Pawpaw are not going to let her go giftless, but I would have liked to have been able to buy her just one gift. Swampkid you know that all I want is a monthly child support payment. I am not trying to make you look bad, but I need money to raise my daughter with. I really am not the bad person Swampkid is trying to make me into, believe me. Most women treat their men bad and take them for all they have when it comes to divorce. I am not like that and all I want is child support. Thank-you again for your words of wisdom, I wish Swampkid had chatted with you instead of her that night.
SwampKidsEx
12/23/2001
A few more notes here. In this case the roles have been reversed Joe has done the dishing and I have been on the receiving end. By the way Joe I'm not your ex yet because you never did sign the divorce papers, Please do that. Also how can I be trying to ruin your reputation? I have not done anything but tell the truth.
swampkid
12/23/2001
OK OK I am done chatting about this. Of course this swampkidsex has found me on here justrying to get some advice. I dont want to become the subject here. But there s one question: Why cant I see my daughter? Why do I have to go through the pain of seeing my daughter go through the pain of me not being there and hearng what her mommy calls me such as deadbeat and a bum and what ever else. #1 am not a dead beat I domy job as a father. I would do anything for my daughter. I love my daughter more than anything in the world. I have many plans for her I now have 2 college savings accounts for her. Many people that know me knows the truth that I am a good father. In the begining of all this I begged me EX to please let me keep my daughter. Of course the answer was no. I go to bed at night in tears because I dont get to see my daughter.
Laurie just do one favor for me:
Tell Brianna that her daddy does love her and I wish I could see her on Christmas.
The One & Only Brett
12/23/2001
Just one question for you swampkid, and please keep it short. What brought on the break-up? Were you running around did you whack her, or is she just an evil person. Sounds to me like she's pissed about something. Try these two words if and only if they are needed, "IM SORRY" you'll find that sometimes they make all the difference in the world. I know I been in the same situation as you a couple of times. That's all from Dr. Brett for now.
