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Doug
12/23/2001
Hey swampkid...Three year olds are tougher than you think. Children are very loving and understanding. Just make sure you maintain a strong, bonding relationship with your daughter. An ex, especially if she is out to "ruin you" can interrupt that bond. Don't let that happen. Your problems with your ex is with you and your ex. Do your best to keep it that way. Some people will try to use the child to get what they want. be it revenge, justify their malice against you, or just because their life is screwed up right now and you are the culprit... unfortunately, thats life, use your agressions productively. This is Doug's wife and this is not our first rodeo either. He has ex's and so do I. Don't let your ex "ruin" you in your profession. Rumors and talk are cheap and dirty, don't let that interfere or cloud your day to day life. Love your daugter with all your heart and don't let anger ever come between you two. Like I said, kids are stronger than us and all they know is total and unconditional love.
SwampKid
12/23/2001
I did not want to broadcast that side of the situation, but since you brought it up. I have told you a hundred times you can see your daughter. The only reason you will not come see your daughter is because I do not want you to leave with her, another words supervised visitation. To make you more comfortable with it I told you I would not be the one to supervise the visitation because I did not want to give Brianna a false impression. How can I trust you to take her by yourself? The one weekend you told me you were going to take her to your house in Galveston is the weekend you moved. Now I have no clue where you are or who you are with. The only thing I know is that you are bouncing back and forth between Florida and Texas, I do not even know what cities. My daughter is the most important thing in the world to me and I will not lose her to someone who does not care about her. Joe if she is so important to you then why do you think she needs not one but two college scholarships instead of food on the table, a roof over her head and a reliable vehicle to be driven in? Yes, she needs a college education but without food it is useless. As far as you having custody of her you were the one who said it was not even a question who she would live with because you know she cannot live without me. I am the one that comforts her at night when she wakes up screaming because she had a dream that I left her like her daddy did. I am the one that has to fight back the tears when she looks at me with those big, bright, brown eyes and says "My daddy says he wants us to go live in his house with him, he says he loves you again and he says daddy likes mommy. My daddy is not mean anymore, my daddy does not yell anymore." Joe you live in your own little world with your own rules. For some reason you cannot see what you have done and what you continue to do. Why is it that you cannot seem to notice that up until now all I have done is written you letters telling you how much I love you and miss you? Unlike most women I just left because I wanted to get on with rebuilding my life. Most normal women would have spent all your money and cleared the apartment out when they left, from clothes to the kitchen sink. I went out of my way to make sure you had enough dishes, food and at least a pot and pan to cook in. When I left that apartment on that cold, dreary day I made sure you had what you needed to live comfortably. Like I said Swampkid all I want are my divorce papers signed and a monthly child support payment. I left you everything else I do not think I'm asking for all that much. To everybody else I'm sorry to be wasting so much space on here, but if I talk to him on the phone he hangs up when I ask for an address and he does not want me to have his email. I guess he is afraid of the harassing letters I use to send him telling him how much I love him and that I need child support money. Swampkid I'm over that now I just need child support money. My parents cannot handle your responsibilities forever.
SwampKidsEx
12/23/2001
Sorry about that last posting being so long and for signing in under the wrong name. One and only how do I sound pissed? I mean yes I'm pissed that he refuses to pay child support, but as far as our relationship I'm not pissed. I may be hurt, but not pissed. I know my daughter and I are better off without him. If you knew the whole story you would agree.
SwampKidsEx
12/23/2001
Doug you are so right! I thought I was going to have to comfort her when she cried for her daddy every night, but that has not happened. Sometimes I will catch her with a distant look in her eyes so I will ask her what's wrong. She just looks at me sadly and says "Well I miss my daddy" I just hug her and say I'm sorry. What else can I say?
SwampKidsEx
12/23/2001
One more thing Brett, I to this day do not know why my marriage is over. I have asked Joe repeatedly but he either hangs up on me or says don't start with me Laurie. He is such a sweetheart ;-)
Petergunn
12/23/2001
I don't believe anyone needs an apology for using this as a mediator. If you have witnessed half the garbage people write in the cement you would know what I am saying. I, for one, welcome any discussion by you two that will help you guys come to some sort of an agreement, and I think that any thing positive that can come from you two communicating here will be far more productive than what the founders of this site had ever imagined possible from a bunch of Cabledawgs. I hope the communication stays going between you all no matter where it takes place, and I think you will find that most of the people in this business would rather help than not, and their patience is all they have to offer you at this time. Like myself, most of us have hurt the way your family is hurting right now. Sometimes, offering you advice or help, or just a friendly ear to listen we really end up helping ourselves more anyway. Thank you, for listening when really you may not have wanted to hear anything from me, to begin with. I don't mean to be turning this into a group session but now that I thought about it, If there was a place to take our business such as this , none of us would probably humble ourselves enough to use it anyway. This is no place or time for pride. Let's all remember real people, real lives, real hearts, real Babies, just like you and me and ours...
CFC
12/23/2001
hey thank's gary and looking forward to info on the splicing project in il.happy holiday's.
SwampKidsEx
12/23/2001
Well I tried that also. Since there was no concrete reason to end a marriage I figured a marriage counselor or someone from our church would be a good alternative to divorce, but I was met with a very rude "DO NOT TELL ME WHAT TO DO!" If I was trying to ruin his reputation I would not be talking about us. Joe you forget what dirty little secrets I know and you know what I could say, but I'm not. Once again Joe this is not about somebody being against you. This about a woman and her child trying to rebuild and go on with their lives. Hoping that somewhere out there is somebody who will love them the way you once vowed to before friends, family, God and yes Baby Swampkid. All we need from you is your financial obligation because all the love in the world will not put food on the table. If that were so then there would not be so many innocent children starving.
"Cable God"
12/24/2001
Just want to let everyone know, Have a safe and happy hollidays, and good new year. Doug sorry for your loss, my sympathies go out to you and your family. Later all.
Tina Knowles
12/24/2001
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL OUR CABLE FRIENDS AND FAMILY......
BILL & TINA KNOWLES
